Mr. Politiko

Another addition from Politician land, Judy Turner. I imagine she included no relevant information in her last post due to feeling hounded. Oh well.

MP Judy Turner:

"thank you for writing, and for being so honest and yet kindly in your approach.
My opposition to civil unions is not a judgement on your ability to be committed and caring father and partner, although there is clear evidence that gay men in particular often have very open relationships that accommodate what most heterosexual couples would consider unfaithfulness. My understanding is that gay women are less likely to tolerate less exclusive arrangements. HOWEVER, for me the overriding concern is the intention to create families where there can be no intention to give children either a mother or a father."


RESPONSE:

"I understand your concerns, but I feel that they are, perhaps, unwarranted.
Are you aware of the rather abundant presumption of heterosexual models in our culture? Again with the concern of promiscuity among homosexual men (an issue that, as you imagine, concerns me to as a deep an extent as it does you) that the lack of education, acceptance and legal protection for homosexuals, coupled with the widespread of stigma may be largely to blame in the production of such non-committal behaviour?
When I raise my children I will be forced, as you can imagine, to resort to slighty unconventional methods - surrogacy (with a female friend who is willing to provide both conception and motherhood to my children) or adoption (should that ever become a legal option. (Ethically I prefer adoption). In either of these cases the child will not be without a female role-model, they will have, ideally a mother with whom I share a friendship strong enough to be familial. The idea is to provide the child with loving parents who love each other in an entirely non-sexual manner.
Further role models (the ones that make single parenting viable) are those of grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, teachers and even television and literature provide.

You may, having encountered some of the less rational members of the homosexual community, wonder why I am not akin to them - and I will gladly admit that I am not: I was raised in a small rural village in the North Island, and although well aware of my homosexuality, was never indoctrinated into the promiscious and foolish homosexual community. Homosexual men are not innately promiscious and unstable, they are dragged into that culture by morally dubious older members, often at an early age. I wish to put a stop to this predatory culture, and I feel that enabling homosexual men to enter legally protected relationships, and furthermore, to take on the roles of fathers, is perhaps the greatest step that our nation could make in that fight.

There are a few homosexuals, myself included, who are intelligent and capable members with concerns about the culture of homosexuality - without families (many of us are rejected by our own) and children (an almost impossible goal for us) how can you expect any level of stability?
I understand very well the moral stigma attached to homosexuality (indeed I tried very, very, very hard to alter my sexuality while I was younger) but I also firmly believe that this stems from the lack of that which this Bill would supply.

I do not believe that, given the Bill, you would encounter families that did not provide a role model of both genders - so I shall simply put forward these views in the hopes that you will consider them, at least briefly.

I do hope I have not taken too much of your time"


Turner's Response:

"Matt[h]ew[,] thank you again. I appreciate your sincere and reasoned letter."

I think I'm starting to wonder, why not take the time, if it was so reasoned. Tell why you oppose my views? Or... not... its seems.